Using the cards one on one

Give the gift of attention, and invite a valued friend to spend time exploring questions that matter.

Use the question cards to start conversations over coffee with a friend, after a day at the beach when the sun’s going down or on a road trip.

Make your own rules: eg: the passenger chooses the question and the driver goes first, and has 5 minutes to talk through their response. Then the passenger gets to tell their answer and story.

The basics are –

• Make the most of the time you have by creating a safe and respectful vibe:

• Put your phones out of sight and on silent

• Sit alongside your buddy

• Turn towards the same view if you need low pressure comms

• Deliberately make time to ‘practice’ the question/answer thing

• Allow laughter and false starts

• Listen in turn, make a gift of your time and attention.

• Try a time limit for the first time around – make it shorter than you think, and then meeting again seems easy

• Say something like this: “You are someone I’d like more of in my life. Would you have time for a conversation? I have some cards to get us started! Its easy and the coffee is on me!”

• Make the first one short and sweet, with lots of listening on your part.

• Ask if you’d like to play again, and/or bring others who’d like to connect over questions.